“Let it go!”:
20 Things to Relieve Your Soul This New Year
Similar to cheap bodega coffee or the newer Nicolas Sparks movies, the general consensus of 2016 is “Well, that was terrible”. We even kept moving along with high hopes, crossing our already crossed fingers until our knuckles were as white as our government in hopes of a better tomorrow. While we can’t change anything about last year, here are some things we can let go of this new year.
(Lists like these are easy to read. They’re easy to scan through and agree with, but difficult to actually put into practice. Focus on one of these at a time. One a day, one a week, however you see fit to truly put these in practice. Future self will thank your past self for taking care of you.)
Taking Things Personally
I bet you think this article is about you. You think all of these are for you and going to resonate so soundly with your soul. Well, yes in this case please take this personally. But other things in life you needn’t take personally. Remind yourself this year that not everything is about you, for you, or against you.
Those Clothes You Keep Keeping That You “might wear one day”
Instantly Judging People
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Decide to be fearless. What’s the worst that could happen?
Keeping a Packed and Busy Schedule
This is a big one for me. I make sure I know exactly what I’m doing every moment of every day so I am too distracted to plunge into a deep existential crisis when I feel like I’m not amounting to anything. Breathe. Take some time for yourself. Let go of some tasks. Say “no” to some people. You deserve a break.
Rewarding Yourself With Food
You are not a dog (unless you are, then please skip to number 7). You do not need a treat every time you do something good, accomplishing, or satisfying.
Really any social media drama. Why? Why is it so important that you argue with someone over a piece of technology which ultimately makes people angry? Whenever you see something you want to start some Facebook drama with, text a friend about how ridiculous it is and hit that backspace button.
Dwelling on Your Mistakes
You are, presumably, a human being between the ages of “alive” and “dead”, so chances are you’ve made mistakes. It’s part of the deal. Humans make mistakes. And no one will remember your mistakes except for you. Let that sh*t go.
Comparing Your Success to the Success of Others
You are on your own journey, at your own pace, in your own time. You will be where you need to be when you need to be there. Be patient with yourself. Rejoice in others’ success, as opposed to seeing it as a reason to get down on yourself.
Letting go of your regrets is such a cliche, I don’t feel this needs an explanation. As one Shia Labeouf said, “Just do it!”
The One Bad Habit You Keep Saying You Should Stop
You know very well you need to stop. What better time than that of the new year! And when January 10rd comes around and you say “Wow! I’ve gone ten days without [insert your bad habit here]! I deserve to [insert bad habit here]!” avoid surrendering to the bad habit. We all know New Years Resolutions never stick. Make it stick this year. There’s never been a better time to succeed.
Treating Others With Disrespect
Pretending to be Happy
Having All The Answers
It’s okay to say “I don’t know” from time to time. Especially in our day and age, there’s an enormous amount of pressure to know what our exact beliefs are. It’s okay to not know. It’s okay to not have all the answers.
Making People Agree With You
Not every conversation is a debate. Exercise having healthy conversations where no one “wins”. Simply expressing your thoughts, opinions, and beliefs to someone is enough—whether or not they agree with you.
That One ex-boy/girl/person/coworker/friend You Can’t Stop Thinking of
Considering Your Physical Appearance as Self-Worth
Remind yourself that your value comes from within—not fashion or external perfection. Embrace each and every physical quality you may dislike. Your physical attributes do not define you.
Saying You Can’t Do Something
Making it a “Good” Year
Let’s face it. Every year isn’t really good or bad. Years simply happen to be how we measure time (or five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes). But within this year will be good moments, and bad moments. Embrace it all. Take it all in. Because regardless of if today is good or bad, there’s always going to be a tomorrow. And hey, if 2017 happens to be worse than 2016, we can keep our hopes up for 2018.